Raising My Boychick » Links http://www.raisingmyboychick.com Feminist thoughts inspired by parenting a presumably-straight white male Wed, 28 Jul 2010 22:24:16 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 en hourly 1 Three things: the BADD, the Gentle, and the New http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/04/three-things-the-badd-the-gentle-and-the-new/ http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/04/three-things-the-badd-the-gentle-and-the-new/#comments Sat, 01 May 2010 06:56:15 +0000 Arwyn http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/?p=2248 One: The first of May is Blog Against Disablism Day, and although I really meant to participate again this year, I’m operating on about four hours’ sleep, and instead of blogging about ableism/disablism, I’m thinking I might actually take care of my own disabilities and go to bed (sort of) on time. Shocking, I know. [...]]]> One: The first of May is Blog Against Disablism Day, and although I really meant to participate again this year, I’m operating on about four hours’ sleep, and instead of blogging about ableism/disablism, I’m thinking I might actually take care of my own disabilities and go to bed (sort of) on time. Shocking, I know. But go read the other excellent BADD posts.

Two: The week-long Carnival of Gentle Discipline is over, and it’s been fabulous. But the fun isn’t yet over: no ma’am, because from now through next Friday (7 May 2010), you can vote over at Baby Dust Diaries for your favorite original Carnival post. The winner gets a $25 gift certificate to Wild Mother Arts at Etsy. Do read all the entries, and vote for your favorite — and I promise I won’t be even slightly disappointed if that’s not me, because the competition is quite outstanding, and I’m proud to have been among them all.

And three: Elizabeth of the oft-dormant Elizabeth’s Little Blog introduced me to Kelly Hogaboom, who also writes Underbellie, and I think — after less than an hour cruising around both sites (and there will be much more time spent there than that when I’ve had more than four hours’ sleep) — that I’m in love. Just… yeah. Read tollhouse helps (which reminded me strongly of We knocked on the neighbour’s door, only, y’know, better), and then read childbirth is natural / childbirth is danger danger!! or perhaps: if you’re a woman you suck, and you will know why.

Your turn: tell me three things from your own life of late. Good, bad, indifferent, ambivalent, whatever. Links optional. Consider this That Spot, you know, the one on your counter/table/banister/cat furniture where you drop all the stuff you’re sure is important but you don’t quite know where to put yet. We’ll help you sort through it. Or just ooo and ahh. Or commiserate. Whatever’s called for.

]]> http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/04/three-things-the-badd-the-gentle-and-the-new/feed/ 27 Interesting weekend http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/02/interesting-weekend/ http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/02/interesting-weekend/#comments Tue, 16 Feb 2010 07:39:26 +0000 Arwyn http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/?p=1750 So here’s something I’ve discovered I won’t blog about: when it’s not my story to tell. When telling of my experience would reveal more than others are ready to share.

That was my weekend. This is the first time I’ve been at my computer for more than 5 minutes since Wednesday night.

Dear Record Number of Commenters: [...]]]> So here’s something I’ve discovered I won’t blog about: when it’s not my story to tell. When telling of my experience would reveal more than others are ready to share.

That was my weekend. This is the first time I’ve been at my computer for more than 5 minutes since Wednesday night.

Dear Record Number of Commenters: I’m not ignoring you, I just haven’t had time yet  to properly reply to all of you. Or even pretend to properly reply to any of you.

And now I have time, but I am spent. What I’ve spent my energy on would be a bargain at ten times the price, and I’d do it all over again right now if called to do so, and again after that. But I’d be drawing on credit, the credit of spoons which has steeper interest rates than any financial company — and I’d do that for what and for whom I did this weekend, in a heartbeat, but for not much else; not even for this, my beloved blog.

So to tide you over until my deficit is replenished and we resume the regular irregular schedule of kyriarchy blame 1, here’s some fabulous reading from elsewhere, in no particular order:

  • half the population can’t be a niche market in which Shiny so clearly lays out how silencing works (primarily looking at women, but acknowledging it works that way for other axes of oppression as well).
  • The Inconvenient Truth About Raising Kids “In raising kids, I don’t think any parenting book will get by the fact that most of us need to work on ourselves first to be better parents. Parenting does not get easier by getting better at “managing” our kids. The best parenting advice I’ve ever heard is work on letting go.”
  • Ranting bfp on John Mayer and racist double standards in criticizing sexist cock heads
  • What is bisexuality FAQ The best FAQ on bisexuality I’ve seen.2 (Though as Reclusive Paradox points out, it is not true that “bisexual” is not binary-reifying or cissexist, only that it is no more so than “homosexual” or “heterosexual”.)
  • Pretty and not sporty – worries about gendering our children Dad Who Writes isn’t making the same choices The Man and I are, but he’s facing the same problems and thinking smartly about them.
  • The Ninth Carnival of Feminist Parenting is up, and as usual has more good reading than I can get to in a month, but I’m going to try.

And, finally, not an article but an announcement for a new blog: existere has started babywearing times two for twin (& other tandem) babywearing. Although I pray I never need to use it, I’m glad she’s creating this resource. Read, learn, contribute. Babywearing is so where it’s at.

  1. There’s another installment of Naked Pictures of Faceless People on the way, and inspired by the most recent fat-people-flying debacle I’m finally going to write about taking the train last December and whether I’m heading to BlogHer ‘10 in New York City in August — which would, in the practical world, require taking commercial flight ↩
  2. On a related note, if anyone wants to buy me one of these — or pretty much any of their Ts — I’d be ever so grateful. And I’d post pics. ↩
]]> http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/02/interesting-weekend/feed/ 0 Thirteenth Carnival of Feminists and other links http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/02/thirteenth-carnival-of-feminists-and-other-links/ http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/02/thirteenth-carnival-of-feminists-and-other-links/#comments Wed, 03 Feb 2010 10:12:46 +0000 Arwyn http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/?p=1669 The Thirteenth Carnival of Feminists is up at Zero at the Bone, and wow is it worth checking out. It’s been up for two days, and I still haven’t read through it all yet. Chally is an amazing organizer, though, and has easily navigable categories, and concise descriptions to narrow in on the posts most [...]]]> The Thirteenth Carnival of Feminists is up at Zero at the Bone, and wow is it worth checking out. It’s been up for two days, and I still haven’t read through it all yet. Chally is an amazing organizer, though, and has easily navigable categories, and concise descriptions to narrow in on the posts most likely to interest you, if you only have time to read a few.

A few from the Carnival I would like to draw your particular attention to:

  • Quantity time at Spilt Milk: “But actually, it is in those daily interactions; the thousands of little ways I care for Bean bodily most days, that the foundations of our bond have been laid. [...] It wasn’t always fun and it wasn’t always pretty but it was… always.”
  • CL Minou writes The Secret Lives of Married Men — Now With Bingo Cards (As background: in anti-oppression circles, there are oppressive/offensive statements said to/about marginalized groups so often we can predict them in advance. So we write them down on little cards and play a rousing game of BINGO when the trolls come out, and point and laugh, and thus do we survive.)
  • Covering Up is a Feminist Issue, says Annie of PhD in Parenting — click over to this one especially if you and your computer are capable of viewing pictures. Lots and lots of beautiful, pointed pictures.

Not from the Carnival but found on a link trail from it, paradox_dragon addresses Queer women, the slash debate, and the question of internalized oppression with depth and nuance and precision that makes me weep with joy and want to join LiveJournal just to friend her. (“Slash” is “fanfiction written about romantic or sexual relationships occurring between two same-gender characters, usually male.” Mostly written by women — supposedly but not actually mostly straight women –, it is reputed to have originated with original Star Trek characters.)

Vying with the above for my new all time biggest crush is this video (with a full transcript below) of Chimamanda Adichie, Nigerian novelist and storyteller, on the problems of the single story.

Posted just after my last link round up, on race and parenting, from Love Isn’t Enough comes Is a diverse environment enough to inoculate children against racism? (Short answer: no, and if we’re thinking of racism only as a problem to inoculate white children against, we’re missing the point something fierce.)

And finally, if you haven’t already seen, the Lesbian/Bisexual Woman of the Decade has been chosen (entirely by you!). Please go drop a line of congratulations, complaint1, questions, kibitzing, or angling for getting nominated in 2020. It was so, so much fun, but it may take me all decade to recover!

  1. OK, skip the complaint. I am open to constructive criticism, though I’ll point out I’m not about to do this again any time soon. ↩
]]> http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/02/thirteenth-carnival-of-feminists-and-other-links/feed/ 2 Link round-up: race and parenting http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/01/link-round-up-race-and-parenting/ http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/01/link-round-up-race-and-parenting/#comments Mon, 25 Jan 2010 08:29:14 +0000 Arwyn http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/?p=1614 If you follow me on Twitter, you’ve seen most of these. For those of you who don’t follow me on Twitter1, I highly recommend reading the following, if you haven’t already (most are not recent posts):

Feminist Parenting: Teaching History

I’ve never had any thought of telling her about [Elizabeth Cady] Stanton thru rose colored glasses. Far [...]]]> If you follow me on Twitter, you’ve seen most of these. For those of you who don’t follow me on Twitter1, I highly recommend reading the following, if you haven’t already (most are not recent posts):

Feminist Parenting: Teaching History

I’ve never had any thought of telling her about [Elizabeth Cady] Stanton thru rose colored glasses. Far from it. I guess I didn’t think she’d bring up the equality question. But I should have known better.

Anti-racist parenting: It’s for everyone

Now, I have several anti-racist parenting allies who are the white parents of white children, but far more of my white friends and acquaintances see racism mainly as a function of the past. …  They “don’t see color” and neither, they insist, will their children.

White Noise: White adults raising white children to resist white supremacy Long, but worth it. The comment thread is illuminating too.

Thandeka in her book, “Learning to Be White: Money, Race and God in America,” states that the first act of child abuse directed towards all white children is that the minute they come out of the womb, they are being taught to be racist. So the game has already started, whether or not we ever directly address race and whiteness in our family.

The last two are not explicitly parenting-related, but are nevertheless important for those of us tempted (by virtue of our whiteness) to consider oppression “only” through gender — which really means through gender and whiteness:

Black Women Need Not Apply

What’s great about how our beauty oppression operates is white women can still feel like feminists when they engage in hand wringing about their looks being picked apart by men without once having to examine their race privilege or acknowledge the way in which their status as highly valued hurts and oppresses marginalized women.

What If Black Women Were White Women?

What if suddenly, instantly, the power of white femininity were transferred to black women?

The answer is clear: Black women would represent value, purity; and based on their natural traits would be worthy of protection and instantly become the objects of universal desire. White women would represent the opposite.

“Beauty tar potion” would become globally popular to get the “black look.” “Dove” would be replaced with a black soap called “Raven” to help exfoliate the skin and bring out subtle hints of melanin.

I have posts bubbling away in the back of my brain — threatening to boil over if not attended to soon — but at this moment, I am out of fuel to address them adequately. Tomorrow, though: watch this space!

  1. Why on Earth not? You’re missing out on so much, like play-by-plays of Doctor Who, what I wore to the re-release of the Star Wars Trilogies –  a black cloak and “Vader’s Lover” scrawled on my cheek — and endless urgings to go vote for Lesbian/Bisexual Woman of the Decade. By the way: go vote. Yes, again. ↩
]]> http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/01/link-round-up-race-and-parenting/feed/ 2 I need to read to write: a good ol’ fashioned link post http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/01/i-need-to-read-to-write-a-good-ol-fashioned-link-post/ http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/01/i-need-to-read-to-write-a-good-ol-fashioned-link-post/#comments Sun, 03 Jan 2010 10:16:02 +0000 Arwyn http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/?p=1373 After several months of completely ignoring its existence, I’m trying to clean up my Google Reader: trim it down, shift it over, and make it reflect the blogs that I actually want to read, but don’t catch in my Twitter stream due to missed timing (or the author — gasp! — not tweeting). I am [...]]]> After several months of completely ignoring its existence, I’m trying to clean up my Google Reader: trim it down, shift it over, and make it reflect the blogs that I actually want to read, but don’t catch in my Twitter stream due to missed timing (or the author — gasp! — not tweeting). I am doing this because I’m coming to realize what should be obvious: that I need to read to write. And while I get easily overwhelmed by an unread New Post list twelve miles long, I also get overwhelmed by the echoes in the solitude of my own head, the standards I construct for myself to live up to.

In the course of this, I am discovering new-to-me-blogs, and new-to-me-posts on blogs I already knew I liked. I’m all kinds of inspired, but since I’m also all kinds of tired (we’re hosting the first virus of the year here in casa de Boychick-Raising), I’ll just offer you some completely-not-comprehensive highlights of what I found (some of these are from weeks or months ago, but I’ve never known a blogger who minded a new link to an old post):

Negotiations And Love Songs ~ by Jay at Two Women Blogging

Courtney mentioned one other point from the book: women have to truly let go of the notion that they are inherently more fit to parent, that they can simply do it better, by virtue of being women. Yes. This. Parents don’t need to be interchangeable – you don’t need to play the same games or have the same approach to soothing the baby. You don’t even need to agree about how to dress the kids. You do have to be able to both take care of the baby’s (and child’s and teenager’s) basic needs, and you need to trust your partner to do so, or the whole 50/50 thing won’t work.

Scripts by my father at Dad Who Writes (I shared this one on Facebook a while back, but it’s worth revisiting)

Dudelet is wailing, terrified by the outburst. It comes from nowhere, is speaking me, is utterly possessing me. I pick him up and carrying him, howling, to his room. I place him on the floor sobbing incoherently and storm back to the kitchen. By now its over and I’m in tears myself.

Mother’s Disability Featured in Custody Dispute at The Curvature

And so, it seems to me that the allegation being made against O’Neill is not that she is failing to ensure proper care for Aidan. The allegation appears to be that she is failing to care for Aidan entirely by herself, without any outside assistance.

This is flat out ableism.

Dances with Discrimination: On “Avatar,” Racism, Misogyny, and Disabled Prejudice

There are some who would argue that “Avatar” is simply a film, and should not be viewed in a broader concept. However, that wasn’t Cameron’s intention, and who better to determine the lens through which we view a movie than the movie’s creative lead? Especially since the film’s anti-corporate, anti-environmental destruction message is being helmed by corporate underwriting of companies that aren’t likely to be eco-friendly, either (sponsorship has to come from somewhere). The chances are pretty high that most viewers, so bedazzled by the swirling lights of Cameron’s cinematic skill, will likely not consider all of the social implications supporting such a movie encourages.

My Picks for Best Breastfeeding Blogs at PhD in Parenting (I swear I’m not including this just because she linked to me; it really is a great list of blogs and posts)

This one I’m just excited about the creation of, and hope talking it up will increase the chances I remember to participate (and that others will too): Calling for submissions for the first Carnival of Natural Parenting! at Hobo Mama

Do you have any posts or blogs to recommend, yours or others’? What were your favorite posts from the last year? What blogs do you think deserve more readers?

]]> http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/01/i-need-to-read-to-write-a-good-ol-fashioned-link-post/feed/ 1 Commenting problems? http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2009/10/commenting-problems/ http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2009/10/commenting-problems/#comments Sat, 24 Oct 2009 07:31:37 +0000 Arwyn http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/?p=1038 I’ve heard from a couple people that when they tried to comment on my latest post it failed to go through, which, among other things, makes me wonder for how many that’s been true from whom I HAVEN’T heard. Although obviously some comments at least are still getting through, and my spam queue certainly hasn’t [...]]]> I’ve heard from a couple people that when they tried to comment on my latest post it failed to go through, which, among other things, makes me wonder for how many that’s been true from whom I HAVEN’T heard. Although obviously some comments at least are still getting through, and my spam queue certainly hasn’t been filling any slower.

I just did a WordPress upgrade, which may or may not have done anything to alleviate the problem: do try commenting again please, so I can know if it helped any. And if you’ve had a problem commenting, either recently or previously, could you either let me know here (if comments work for you this time!), or send me an email at arwyn at raisingmyboychick dot com?

And if you’re also a WP blogger and have had similar problems with your commenting system, please drop me a line as well, especially if you have any tips on its rectification.

And to make this a not-totally-pointless post for all you lurkers out there (really? it’s safe to comment. I promise I don’t bite. unless you ask nicely, and happen to already know where I live), some links to things I’ve enjoyed recently that happen to be open at the moment and I’m able to find among my truly embarrassing tab forest (I counted recently. you don’t want to know. I don’t want you to know. I especially don’t want you to know how this makes my computer unlike my 3-D life not at all. so pretend I didn’t just say anything. what were we talking about? right, links):

Too Big For My Skin — The Campaign (YouTube video)

Default Settings, at this ain’t livin’

How Not to Interview Someone by Kelly Diels

No, Actually, You Did Not Turn Out OK, at Escaping To My Happy Place

Everything over at FWD/Forward: Feminists with disabilities for a way forward

And in case you, like I, momentarily forgot what this post was originally about: comments? problems? comment! or email. Make my comment queue or my in-box happy. Even if it’s only to hear about your sadness.

]]> http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2009/10/commenting-problems/feed/ 13 Look! Over there at that other blog! Neat stuff! http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2009/10/look-over-there-at-that-other-blog-neat-stuff/ http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2009/10/look-over-there-at-that-other-blog-neat-stuff/#comments Wed, 07 Oct 2009 07:01:04 +0000 Arwyn http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/?p=921 AKA I got nuthin’.

No, that’s not true: I have two amazingly kick-ass half-written posts, plus the usual host of knock-your-socks-off-if-I-ever-get-them-written post ideas. But actual publishable content?

Um…

Hey look! Links!

I Blame the Mother has been hopping:

Just over a week ago, I wrote “A Nation of Wimps”: guess who’s to blame!, on an oldie-but-baddie article at Psychology Today. [...]]]> AKA I got nuthin’.

No, that’s not true: I have two amazingly kick-ass half-written posts, plus the usual host of knock-your-socks-off-if-I-ever-get-them-written post ideas. But actual publishable content?

Um…

Hey look! Links!

I Blame the Mother has been hopping:

Just over a week ago, I wrote “A Nation of Wimps”: guess who’s to blame!, on an oldie-but-baddie article at Psychology Today. Not only does the author blame the mother, it’s absolutely full of disability fail as well. Fun!

Then blottedcopybook knocked a couple out of the park with Mothers who work have unhealthy, unfit children, in which she points out how the mother-blaming culture has lead to this gem of a mother-blame, and It’s only equality if the government can’t exploit it, on how child-care swaps are apparently criminal in the UK. (And if my fellow US citizens feel smug on this issue, read this. It not only could happen here, it has.)

Ruth Moss blames Gordylocks for blaming teenage mothers (tip: teenage mumhood is nothing new, y’all), and creates the greatest tag of all time: .

In triggery-blamage (seriously, don’t read these if you’re low on spoons; they deal with rape), Lucy addresses the Polanski “fun” with Girl’s mother caused Polanski to rape, and blottedcopybook is back with They call this justice? No level of snark in the world could make that one palatable.

And because it’s not teh intarwebz without ONOZ TEH PEDOPHILES, we leave off with Ruth Moss’s Paedophiles — whose fault? Guess. There’s a reason I love her (platonically, Lucy!).

Oh, and I have a new glossary entry up for EC / elimination communication. I started writing a post on EC, privilege, and kyriarchy, and was getting bogged down (bogged? gittit? hm, the Brits in the audience snickered at least) by the 101, split it off, and that’s the result. For whatever that’s worth.

And that’s this week’s meta and linkage! Hope you enjoy, and I’ll be back with Actual Original Content just as soon as sleep schedules, school, the crazy in my brain, and that fickle lover inspiration all allow.

Wish me luck.

(Since I’ve long since given up on Google Reader — did you know it stops counting at 1000 unread posts? –, drop a line and a link in the comments if there’s aught you want me to see. Self-promotion is welcome and appreciated!)

]]> http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2009/10/look-over-there-at-that-other-blog-neat-stuff/feed/ 1 PSA: 5th Carnival of Feminists has arrived! http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2009/09/psa-5th-carnival-of-feminists-has-arrived/ http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2009/09/psa-5th-carnival-of-feminists-has-arrived/#comments Wed, 30 Sep 2009 05:43:24 +0000 Arwyn http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/?p=879 The Fifth Carnival of Feminists has landed over at Zero at the Bone, home of the hard-working and super-fabulous Chally, who deserves a big round of applause and the personal service of her choice (too bad my arms don’t reach to Australia, I hear I’m not half bad at this massage thing) for putting it [...]]]> The Fifth Carnival of Feminists has landed over at Zero at the Bone, home of the hard-working and super-fabulous Chally, who deserves a big round of applause and the personal service of her choice (too bad my arms don’t reach to Australia, I hear I’m not half bad at this massage thing) for putting it together. My piece Toddlers are triggering has been included, but hardly stands out among the other excellent submissions.

Here’s a small sampling, primarily ones that touch on parenting:

Kate of Rebel Raising has something to say in Is that child crazy? ‘How much of the time are children behaving in the way an adult would if their life were like a child’s life?’ [Kate is the genius behind I Blame the Mother]

“How Can Feminist Mums Avoid Being Humourless Childhood-Ruiners?” Lauredhel and the Hoyden About Town commentariat have a few things to say on the subject.

Veronica, writing at Viva La Feminista, is wondering about the times when speaking up might make things worse. The post is called My privileged nose & reporting a slap to a baby.

amandaw hits it out of the ballpark with Domestic violence, C-sections considered pre-existing conditions at three rivers fog. It’s about ableism, healthcare, ableism, misogyny and ableism.

At Catspaw, Lucy talks about her experiences at university as a trans woman, including dealing with fellow students, professors and study material. The post is called I’m (Mostly Not) Coming Out. [Lucy is a dear friend and helped me with the Glossary entry on trans, transgender, transsexuality -- yes, it's finally up --, so I had to spotlight hers.]

But they’re all stupendous, and you really just need to go over there and check it out.

]]> http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2009/09/psa-5th-carnival-of-feminists-has-arrived/feed/ 3 No more words http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2009/09/no-more-words/ http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2009/09/no-more-words/#comments Thu, 17 Sep 2009 03:45:08 +0000 Arwyn http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/?p=757 It may not exactly be a bad thing, considering a few days ago they wouldn’t shut the bleep up, and I was composing more posts than I could keep up with, composing posts while going about my day, composing posts while trying to parent my child, composing posts in the middle of praying — begging [...]]]> It may not exactly be a bad thing, considering a few days ago they wouldn’t shut the bleep up, and I was composing more posts than I could keep up with, composing posts while going about my day, composing posts while trying to parent my child, composing posts in the middle of praying — begging — for a moment of silence from the neverending cascade of words… but now, having been granted that which I wished for, I can’t help also mourning their loss. As my friends who have also been through this hell-ride of a roller coaster known as bipolar disorder say, they’ll be back, and at a saner pace — eventually. This is just the inevitable lull after the (shit)storm of the hypomania. (Hey, at least I’m a rapid cycler — sure, the productive hypomania doesn’t last long, but neither does the can’t-catch-my-breath unproductive hypomania, and maybe this fuck-I-can’t-string-two-words-together lull won’t either. …Right?)

Anyway. There’s that, and, y’know, I’m trying to actually sleep, which leaves me little time for writing. Well, and when I tried earlier, when I had some time during daylight hours, I couldn’t get my brain to track a thought, much less form a cohesive sentence. It’s not that I don’t have ideas (I do, oh how I do: I think I’ve doubled my drafts queue in the past week), it’s just that the actual execution of said ideas is a little… lacking.

In other words (heh), I have no idea what my posting is going to be like for the next little while, except I wouldn’t expect daily updates if I were my readership. But such is life when your Blogging Hostess (Beloved Bloggess? Chief Chick Raiser? the Chick Raiser Chick?) has a mood disorder that likes to rear its attractive, treacherous head just when I think I have this parenting-blogging-stability-life gig figured out.

In the meantime, two requests: first, go read Fugivitus. She pretty well rocks. Especially fabulous, if triggery (self-injury references), is this recent post. I’ve feeling very much there myself right now: I have to do this whole fucking getting-well thing over again, and it blows ugly half-chewed throat-burning acidic chunks — but I’ve done it before, and that gives me strength to know I can do it again.

Second request: I’ve figured out this isn’t nearly as effective as going to individuals to ask, but since I’m not up to that right now, I’m putting out another general call for submissions to the Womanist/Feminist Parenting Primer. Also, how do you feel about it? Is it working for you? Expanding your horizons at all? Answering any questions? Are you enjoying the guest posts? Do you wish I would scrap the project altogether? And if not — will you submit something? I promise I won’t bite.

Even if I were ever so inclined — and I can’t say as I would be, unless I really like you — I just don’t have the energy right now.

]]> http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2009/09/no-more-words/feed/ 7 New post up at “I blame the mother” http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2009/09/new-post-up-at-i-blame-the-mother/ http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2009/09/new-post-up-at-i-blame-the-mother/#comments Thu, 03 Sep 2009 05:28:47 +0000 Arwyn http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/?p=666 I blame American woman, who are all potentially mothers! by I, your cheating-on-you-with-another-blog-but-hey-I’m-letting-you-know-about-it bloggess.

Featuring lines such as:

nope, it’s all because American cis women of childbearing age apparently scarf narcotics, nicotine, donuts, dope, and dirty, dirty dick willy-nilly.

Reader maria raves:

this post made me seethe with rage, but also laugh. because you rule.

Go, read, laugh, seethe!

(Never fear, [...]]]> I blame American woman, who are all potentially mothers! by I, your cheating-on-you-with-another-blog-but-hey-I’m-letting-you-know-about-it bloggess.

Featuring lines such as:

nope, it’s all because American cis women of childbearing age apparently scarf narcotics, nicotine, donuts, dope, and dirty, dirty dick willy-nilly.

Reader maria raves:

this post made me seethe with rage, but also laugh. because you rule.

Go, read, laugh, seethe!

(Never fear, Dear Reader, I may be cheating on you, but I haven’t left you entirely. New content exclusively for Raising My Boychick coming soon! Some of which I may even write myself!)

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