Comments on: Lessons from an almost-over family reunion http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/06/lessons-from-an-almost-over-family-reunion/ Parenting, privilege, and rethinking the norm Tue, 07 Feb 2012 04:59:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Lauren @ Hobo Mama http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/06/lessons-from-an-almost-over-family-reunion/#comment-10520 Lauren @ Hobo Mama Sat, 19 Jun 2010 07:16:02 +0000 http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/?p=2408#comment-10520 I get very annoyed when relatives think the way Mikko (now 3) behaves around them is how he behaves at all times. Even when we try to point out, "He's overstimulated! He's exhausted!" there is censure that apparently we must be doing something <i>wrong</i> because (a) our child alternates between glee and utter meltdowns and (b) we're <i>not stopping it</i>. Did I mention all three of us are introverts? And homebodies? And not very social? And like routine? Yeah, visits and traveling and reunions are fun, for a bit, and then — not. I get very annoyed when relatives think the way Mikko (now 3) behaves around them is how he behaves at all times. Even when we try to point out, “He’s overstimulated! He’s exhausted!” there is censure that apparently we must be doing something wrong because (a) our child alternates between glee and utter meltdowns and (b) we’re not stopping it.

Did I mention all three of us are introverts? And homebodies? And not very social? And like routine?

Yeah, visits and traveling and reunions are fun, for a bit, and then — not.

]]> By: Arwyn http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/06/lessons-from-an-almost-over-family-reunion/#comment-10334 Arwyn Mon, 14 Jun 2010 21:54:10 +0000 http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/?p=2408#comment-10334 Somehow, I don't think The Man's Army security officer would approve travel plans to Cuba. Sounds lovely, though. Somehow, I don’t think The Man’s Army security officer would approve travel plans to Cuba. Sounds lovely, though.

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]]> By: Auntie http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/06/lessons-from-an-almost-over-family-reunion/#comment-10211 Auntie Sat, 12 Jun 2010 14:33:06 +0000 http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/?p=2408#comment-10211 You come by it honestly, at least on your dad's side. I have found dog walking to be a great excuse to pull away for a bit of alone time :-) But it's a bit more challenging when you have kid responsibilities. It may get easier in a few years, when they are a bit older. Not that I would know, mind you, but seems to me they'll get to the point where they won't need such constant supervision, and can be pointed at an activity and left to do it. I'm glad you got in those 1-1 conversations, at least. You come by it honestly, at least on your dad’s side.

I have found dog walking to be a great excuse to pull away for a bit of alone time :-) But it’s a bit more challenging when you have kid responsibilities. It may get easier in a few years, when they are a bit older. Not that I would know, mind you, but seems to me they’ll get to the point where they won’t need such constant supervision, and can be pointed at an activity and left to do it.

I’m glad you got in those 1-1 conversations, at least.

]]> By: Kelly http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/06/lessons-from-an-almost-over-family-reunion/#comment-10178 Kelly Fri, 11 Jun 2010 21:49:18 +0000 http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/?p=2408#comment-10178 I finished my NaNoWriMo in '09 during a family Thanksgiving fête I was hosting; the next year I ran my scheduled run before I started the dinner. These sound like pissant accomplishments but I felt guilty about shutting out my "guests" to take time for both. It's hard (as a female and mother) to take this time for oneself. Glad my partner totally supports me in it, it makes it easier. I finished my NaNoWriMo in ’09 during a family Thanksgiving fête I was hosting; the next year I ran my scheduled run before I started the dinner. These sound like pissant accomplishments but I felt guilty about shutting out my “guests” to take time for both. It’s hard (as a female and mother) to take this time for oneself. Glad my partner totally supports me in it, it makes it easier.

]]> By: Annie @ PhD in Parenting http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/2010/06/lessons-from-an-almost-over-family-reunion/#comment-10172 Annie @ PhD in Parenting Fri, 11 Jun 2010 18:54:28 +0000 http://www.raisingmyboychick.com/?p=2408#comment-10172 I highly recommend Cuba. I highly recommend Cuba.

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