Comments on: It seems inevitable

By: Choosing Joy « Raising My Boychick

Choosing Joy « Raising My Boychick — Wed, 28 Apr 2010 03:29:16 +0000

[...] It seems inevitable [...]

By: mamapoekie

mamapoekie — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 19:10:26 +0000

written a post in reaction to this one (took me until now to get it up, crappy internet!) I linked you up in it ;)
http://mamapoekie.blogspot.com/2010/03/master-of-zen-lord-of-chaos.html

By: Emerson

Emerson — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 14:04:57 +0000

You are lucky you get any zen days. Its designed for another purpose, but the serenity prayer really does help when one is wobbling.

Lady, give me the strength to endure the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

(sposed to start God, but Lady works)

By: Arwyn

Arwyn — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 09:51:16 +0000

Heh. Yeah, there’s definitely something there about being self-congratulatory, and then when I wobble, getting pissed that it’s not as easy as it was and thus, ah, REALLY wobbling.

That’s it, no more zen days.

By: blue milk

blue milk — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 09:26:00 +0000

Isn’t the rule of zen that as soon as you know you have achieved it you have lost it?

By: MommyNaniBooboo

MommyNaniBooboo — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 02:37:44 +0000

If you ever need help being zen – just give me a hollar! But try not to catch me when I’m being the worst mom ever.
Hugs and stuff.

By: Renee

Renee — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 00:13:15 +0000

Well the fact that you manage to have a full day worth of zen is a wonderful thing. I find invariably at some point through out the day one of the boys will just make lose it. I have come to the belief that it is a child’s job to drive a parent around the bend.

By: Lauren @ Hobo Mama

Lauren @ Hobo Mama — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 17:28:29 +0000

Well, if it makes you feel better, you’ve made me feel better about having those plate-breaking days myself. Because sometimes I figure everyone else has it all together, you know?

On reflection, maybe that doesn’t make you feel better. But hope something does! Do you think zen days are the result of practice — as in, maybe they’ll continue to get easier and more frequent? I can hope…

By: Arwyn

Arwyn — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 15:14:01 +0000

The thing is, the zen days feel so EASY. It doesn’t feel like I’m repressing or controlling or anything. It just flows, even when he’s being so very intensely him. It’s beautiful.

But then the next day, BOOM.

Maybe I get frustrated that I’m frustrated rather than zen-again, and that rapidly spirals and I end up taking it out on him?

I dunno.

By: mamapoekie

mamapoekie — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 11:45:16 +0000

I’ve got exactly the same problem… although maybe not exactly, sometimes my zen and not so zen fluctuate within the same day. I think there is a maximum amount of time one person can stay in control, conscious, selfreflecting, it depends on a number of variables… mm I think I’m turning this into a blog post.
anyway, thanks for blogging