Comments on: In his own time

By: Zoey @ Good Goog

Zoey @ Good Goog — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 13:00:30 +0000

I occasionally get the impression that people think I’m a coddler (shock! horror!) because I still give Riley (20 months old) a bottle, let her sleep in our bed when she wants and don’t insist that she ‘walk it off’ when she’s hurt herself. But I whole-heartedly agree that this is all stuff that she will work out when she’s ready. They are only little for such a tiny period of time.

By: Crystal

Crystal — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 03:14:36 +0000

This is a great post. I find myself torn. At 3.5yo, I certainly do wish he felt too old for diapers and would finally sit on the toilet and go and would fall asleep without me in his room. But at the same time I recognize these are his needs right now and I am doing my best to meet them. It can be hard, as he is a VERY high needs child, but I do my best each day. Thanks for posting this. Boychick is a lucky “kid”!

By: JohannaMM

JohannaMM — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 16:06:04 +0000

People who see the younger generation only sporadically can more easily see the changes than those who see them all day everyday. Every once in a while, something clicks and you realize he’s changed. It can be hard, because you have a continuous stream back to little dependent baby. I think it’s that dependency that is so often used as the dividing line between baby and kid. And as independent as he is in peeing and eating and ambulation, you and I know how very dependent he is on us still for shelter and getting food in the house and clothing, etc. Even after full independence is achieved, the heart still feels that special tug: this is MY BABY, and always will be.

By: Marcy

Marcy — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 06:01:28 +0000

Donovan has a girl friend down the street with whom we play a lot, she’s 2.5yrs old so a little older than he is. She likes to talk about how he is “the baby” (she calls him Baby) and she’s “the grownup.” It’s really cute to watch. =P

And yeah, just tonight I was watching my own almost-two-year-old splashing in the tub and marveled at how long he is now, and how teeny tiny he used to be…

By: Susannah

Susannah — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 03:21:23 +0000

Keagan has been telling me for some time now that he isn’t a baby. I always respond with “but you’ll always be MY baby”. Not too much resistance to that one yet. They *do* grow up way too fast. I never understood that until it was MY baby though.

By: Summer

Summer — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 18:24:31 +0000

Oh man, I remember the first time Evan told me he was “not a baby!”. It was like a knife in my heart and complete joy at the same time. I never got the push to make them be big kids, they go there fast enough on their own. Too fast.

By: Cave Mother

Cave Mother — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 16:20:58 +0000

It always makes me feel better to read posts from people whose babies have grown up, have figured out sleeping and using a toilet for themselves and have generally become little people without any pressure from their parents. It gives me strength to know that if I am patient, my really really high needs fifteen month old will get there in the end. So, thanks.

By: Emersoncm

Emersoncm — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 14:29:14 +0000

Fum, exciting and fast. They always grow up faster than expected. Expect ten more years of KID, then who knows what a 12 going on teen will want to be called.

Of course he’ll always be your baby, Though calling him such is now objected to, guess who still thinks of you that way? Even though there is no doubt at all of your maturity, to a Mother her children are always her babies. At least that is what I observe. Mom may contradict me, she often does.