One of the ideas I find most anti-feminists/non-feminists are especially prone to misunderstanding, and taking issue with womanism/feminism over, is that of what it means to be “woman-centric”. Their objections come up when womanists/feminists try to talk about the importance of women having access to health care, helping women procure higher education, creating space for women’s voices, and so on.
“But what about men?” they object. “I support everyone having access to health care. I want to make sure everyone can go to college. I want to hear what everyone has to say.”
As though womanists/feminists don’t.
We say “let’s do something for women” and they hear “let’s take away something from men”. We say “let’s talk about women” and they hear “men don’t matter”. We say “women are people” and they hear “men are not”.
The thing is, we are women-centric not because men don’t matter, but because the entire rest of the world is male-centric. Men are surely screwed over by kyriarchy also, but in this messed-up system, there can be no rational doubt that men have more power, more privilege, more authority than women. The whole world is already centered around men and their concerns.
Feminisms’ woman-centricism, then, is not a case of “reverse discrimination” against men, it is not because we “hate men”, it is not that we don’t want men to have the things we work for for women (health care, safety, autonomy, freedom from discrimination: a life free of kyriarchy) — no, it is simply saying: “Women matter. We matter. For once, for one small moment out nearly the whole of history, let us be able to center women and our concerns. Not because men don’t matter, but because we do, despite what the rest of the world says.”
That’s all. That is what it means when I say this blog is woman-centric, for all that it is inspired by a certain small presumably-male being: this is a space where women and our concerns have priority, and I make no apologies for it.