Comments on: On breastfeeding and things we don’t talk about

By: Karen L

Karen L — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 05:58:13 +0000

I hated when my 2 y-o tried to nurse again when my third was born 6 months after she’d self-weaned. I’d heard of kids unweaning and I was somewhat open to that but … she’d lost her technique and it was arousing and sloppy and tense (because she’d bitten me once and see: arousing and sloppy) and gross. I figured out to express milk into her mouth while cradling her (maybe that’s also an idea for other people who are struggling with older kids), which took care of my physical issues and satisfied her curiousity and craving for babying and cuddling. I don’t think she particularly liked the taste and the experience was so mutually unsatisfying that it was a short-lived phase.

By: Rachael

Rachael — Sun, 09 Oct 2011 23:47:15 +0000

Thank you for posting this. It was a comfort to me, as was reading through all the comments. I struggled with the “weird” feelings when I was breast feeding my daughter, but I thought it WASN’T normal, so in trying to get through all the self-trauma and emotional stress, I gave up breast feeding. :( I still pumped and had no problem with that, but I am so sad that we only got to have that special kind of bonding time for just the few months of feeding we did. I am hoping, especially now with some insight and inspiration from you ladies, that things will go much better next time.

By: Arwyn

Arwyn — Fri, 20 May 2011 19:59:48 +0000

Allison,

Oh, this warmed my heart to read this morning. Thank you so much for coming back and sharing, and congratulations on the little one and on establishing breastfeeding! I’m so very happy for you. <3

By: allison

allison — Fri, 20 May 2011 13:51:36 +0000

Just wanted to let you know that my son is now 5 1.2 months old and breastfeeding is going GREAT! My pregnancy fears never came to fruition! And, oddly, breastfeeding has enabled me to enjoy above-the-waist foreplay for the first time ever. I don’t understand this at all so I’m just gonna chalk it all up to nature. I don’t get it but it’s for a reason! I did want to say that your honesty and bravery in writing this post, then sweetly replying to my comment (though I never commented back, I just couldn’t at the time) was very encouraging. It’s these little moments of support from a variety of people that I think make all the difference in the world when it comes to breastfeeding. I just read a post on PhD in Parenting on “Mother’s shouldn’t have opinions” which is why I scooted on over here. If it weren’t for you having an opinion and sharing it with the world online I wouldn’t have felt so encouraged to start and stick with breastfeeding especially in the hard early weeks. Thanks so much for your efforts to educate and support. You’re a beautiful soul. Much love, allison.

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By: Jenn

Jenn — Tue, 05 Oct 2010 08:01:52 +0000

Thank you so much for your candor. I’m due in a couple weeks and am aiming for at least 2 years of breastfeeding. I really appreciate knowing what could happen and that these feelings are normal, regardless of what they may be. I’ve wondered about the relationship between breastfeeding and one’s sexuality, especially as my son gets older. It’s just really nice to know what can happen and be felt, and to not feel dirty about such feelings (especially coming from an abusive past), and that however I choose to deal with the resulting situation, it is my choice and it is okay.

By: Amber

Amber — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 15:02:04 +0000

OOOH thank you for this “never do anything that makes you not like your children” that’s one of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever heard.