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By: The Nerd

The Nerd — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 01:48:00 +0000

I just found this blog and I LOVE IT! I’m a single mother of a 3-year-old, and just today I found myself thinking “how do I raise him to understand that the misogyny which the media shoves down our throats isn’t acceptable?” I also wonder how to react to people who say he’s “girly” or even “gay”, and at such a young age! (I currently go with a “I love him the way he is” response.)

I don’t know much about attachment parenting, and I hadn’t heard of helicopter parenting before now. I couldn’t say what any style of parenting has over another. All I know is that having him sleep next to me for a year helped me get more sleep because I didn’t have to get out of bed. Breastfeeding made sense, since that’s all I could afford to do. Choosing a quiet home for his daycare fit my need for flexibility as a single mother. Leaving him with the boyfriend every so often to go out with friends – that helps keep me saner and him healthier as a result. Every other parenting website loves to say what mothers “should” do to raise their kids the “right” way. Bah! It’s refreshing to find a blog that breaks away from all of that.

By: Rj

Rj — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 00:08:31 +0000

This is excellent. I should make this a required reading for my site.

By: Arwyn

Arwyn — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 17:36:00 +0000

Oh that is crap. (And several of the posts are flat out wrong, too–the carseat one starts out with a big fat lie, er, error, which makes the rest of it bunk.)

But, that’s also the nature of the Internet. You only need one or two clicks to get from my site to a misogynist site, or an anti-breastfeeding one, or an anti-attachment one. It’s hard to find even a single site that doesn’t offend me — or at least, that I can entirely agree with — some way or another (I’m thinking especially sexist attachment parenting sites, anti-mother feminist sites, anti-tv-free unschooling sites, anti-massage science sites, anti-science natural health sites…*); it seems too much to ask that all the sites they link to be unoffensive as well.

(* None of these things are actually inherently incompatable; rather, they reveal just how common irrationality, prejudice, and false dichotomies are.)

Erm, that went tangental; what I mean is, yes, that is really disappointing, and thanks for pointing it out.

By: Ruth Moss

Ruth Moss — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 08:07:00 +0000

I don’t know if you’ve seen the “Mommy Myth Busting” site linked to from the Free Range Kids one. Very disappointing.

By: Arwyn

Arwyn — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 04:09:00 +0000

Broodmother — Portland, Seattle, close enough! ;)

Jen — I need to check out The Snowy Day, too. :)

Hobomama — Yes! That was the article. :) I love me some Hrdy, and need to check out that book. I suspect you’re getting it exactly right: give him both the freedom to roam and the freedom to stay close. As for the issue of running afowl ;) of our anti-free-range culture, well, that’s a whole ‘nother post. It’s a real concern, because we simply DON’T have the freedoms parents used to have to make those kinds of decisions (to leave our children alone, to give them responsibilities, to let them run and play). It’s scary how much that is taken away from us, without being offered any kind of real support in return.